Good relationships (sexual and otherwise) are all about respecting the autonomy of the other person. The goal should always be not to satisfy yourself, while the other person feels used, betrayed, or hurt (Win-Lose). The goal should be finding a way to satisfy your own needs while the other person also feels satisfied (Win-Win), whether than is in selling a car for a fair price, or entering into a polyamorous relationship.
Author: Beverly Diehl
She/Her. Sex-positive, pro-choice, life-positive, polyamorous, breast cancer sur-thriver. With tiara.
Malala Yousefzai: Great Sluts in History
As an American, it is sometimes impossible (and other times, all too easy), to imagine what we would do – what I would do – if my beloved country was taken over by religious extremists. Malala Yousefzai doesn’t have to imagine; she’s living it. And she has the bullet wounds to prove it. A SWAT…
Coco Chanel: Great Sluts in History
Abandoned orphan. Cocotte (kept woman) and Couturière. Nazi-lover? Gabrielle Bonheur Chanel did not live an easy nor uncontroversial life. Her parents: mother Jeanne, a landrywoman, and father Albert Chanel, a traveling street vendor, were unmarried at the time of her birth, though persuaded (shotgun marriage?) to formally wed, several children later. When Gabrielle was 12,…
Dr. Joycelyn Elders: Great Sluts of History
“… given a choice between hearing my daughter say ‘I’m pregnant’ or ‘I used a condom,’ most mothers would get up in the middle of the night and buy them herself.”
I Am Trayvon Martin’s… Mother #100CityTrayvon
I didn’t meet any angry people. I met people who expressed hurt, frustration, fear for their children, and despair, and yet, were still hopeful. Hopeful that although it seems the justice system had yet again failed, if we gathered together like this, our voices would be heard. That the killing of Trayvon Martin would not be allowed to be just another dead young black swept under the mat and forgotten.