Good relationships (sexual and otherwise) are all about respecting the autonomy of the other person. The goal should always be not to satisfy yourself, while the other person feels used, betrayed, or hurt (Win-Lose). The goal should be finding a way to satisfy your own needs while the other person also feels satisfied (Win-Win), whether than is in selling a car for a fair price, or entering into a polyamorous relationship.
Category: Slice o’ Life
I Am Trayvon Martin’s… Mother #100CityTrayvon
I didn’t meet any angry people. I met people who expressed hurt, frustration, fear for their children, and despair, and yet, were still hopeful. Hopeful that although it seems the justice system had yet again failed, if we gathered together like this, our voices would be heard. That the killing of Trayvon Martin would not be allowed to be just another dead young black swept under the mat and forgotten.
Two of the Times Someone Raped Me (Part III)
Even if you’ve been engaging in foreplay and you’re both stark naked, no means no. Saying yes to flirting, to kissing, even getting naked together, does not mean that the other person is “entitled” to have sex with you.
Two of the Times Someone Raped Me (Part II) #rape
The tape running in my head, over and over during this time, was, “Remember every detail you can, so they can get this guy,” but somehow, almost nothing stuck. The only detail that burned into my brain was his boxer shorts: light blue, solid, with no pattern, with white trim around the edges.
Two of the Times Someone Raped Me (Part I) #rape
He became upset that I had bled onto his sheets, because it could get him into trouble. I actually apologized to my rapist because his raping me made me bleed.